That’s What Friends Are For

“And I never thought I’d feel this way

And as far as I’m concerned

I’m glad I got the chance to say

That I do believe I love you”

So begin the lyrics to the song “That’s What Friends are For” penned by Stevie Wonder.  And how true they are….

Our concept of friendship begins at an early age when we approach our friendships eagerly and willingly, accepting new friends easily and never passing judgment on their looks or their motivations for being our friend.

Ironically, as we mature our “friendship filter” kicks in along the way and there is a loss of that innocent enthusiasm.  We apply tests of time and tests of reasoning, as though either the length of time we have known someone or the reason they want to befriend us are true indicators of the kind of friendship we will have.

I have found myself guilty of this thinking on many occasions throughout my lifetime.  When I was at my most aware, I would fight these instincts; at other times, in the interest of — what ? — self preservation, perhaps ? I was determined to deny the possibility of a new friendship for reasons that seemed, well, reasonable !

“Well you came and opened me

And now there’s so much more I see

And so by the way I thank you” 

Today, my filter is re-setting itself to return to the days when adult misgivings and societal warnings were not part of the process of deciding to be friends with someone new.  A new friend — someone I met only a week ago — wrote me a truly kind message on Facebook.  She is unaware of how positively her message affected me and how it caused me this reflection and new thinking.  But I thank her.  I may even someday tell her.  For now, I am thrilled to accept her without question as a new friend and I hope that our friendship will endure.

An unknown author once wrote that “friends are the flowers in life’s garden.” I plan to cultivate my garden so that from here on out it is resplendent with beautiful flowers ! 🙂

“Keep smiling, keep shining

Knowing you can always count on me, for sure

That’s what friends are for

In good times, in bad times

I’ll be on your side forever more

Oh, that’s what friends are for”

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2 Responses to That’s What Friends Are For

  1. Barbara says:

    Old friends can let you down, reject you,& that really sucks .At least you know & can re-evaluate what that supposed friendship was, & the values it was based on. Sometimes they are not what you think they were after 40 years. We all change. New friends can be golden too.

    • cwc6161 says:

      Old friends can, and do, at least from what others have told me. I’m blessed not to have experienced that. And I do have some lovely new friends.

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